When you kid is yelling or they say something mean--it appears they don't care about you--this can be from anyone! What if you turned that around, and concentrated only on yourself? I should love myself. It's easier, and in the end, they love you more when you do it.
Could not knowing actually be the way of it? The way that might work best? It doesn't mean being lazy or lacadaisical, it means relaxing and being OK with not knowing.
When you bump up against demands you think you need to make of your kids, or anyone for that matter, it can be very stressful. Here's where you can start to unravel that stress.
Notice your anxiety, and relax. Allow your body to go limp. Stop dictating to yourself that you need to find a way to become less anxious, and watch this thing called anxiety--study it! It could be your friend.
When you think you don't have enough time, you can get super anxious! Have you noticed? Or what about too much time on your hands? Boredom is anxiety-producing, too. What if life has it's own pace, and it's not up to you?
Feeling anxiety is very difficult for so many (myself included). There's ONE basic premise, however, that must be in place in order to feel fearful and get anxious....that it's possible to NOT BE HAPPY in certain situations. Strangely simple, but we begin looking at this belief this week.
Start with your most stressful thought about love, then explore on paper with journaling. You can do an exercise to dialogue with yourself about your painful thoughts about love.
Exploring the inner you is so exciting! Use your imagination to explore what it would be like to not have a thought!
Rumi's beautiful poetry "Community of Spirit" tells us to throw away our stories and let silence tell us all, end our suffering, join the community of spirit!
When we apply this to romantic love, our complaints "he left me" or "she left me" become irrelevant.
Most people find discomfort in one of three areas around love: being single, breaking up, dating or being in a long-term relationship that's difficult.
Who would you be without your story about love?
Now we're getting into the best stuff possible when it comes to uncomfortable feelings--letting them run through you. They point to some lie you're thinking and believing anyway, so why not let them point it out big and proud, so you can adjust and see it more easily? Relax, and it always passes.
What continues to happen if you don't resist feeling bad? If you don't damn up your feelings like swelling up a stream, you might find they go in direction that surprise you.
When you feel horrible, it's really common to think "I need to get rid of this!!!" and start every strategy you've ever imagined since childhood to get yourself to stop feeling "x" (insert uncomfortable feeling here).
What if you let the feeling be there, as it is?
See what happens next.