Friendships can be full of opportunity to be clear, be real, be loving and return to peace. Here's what I disocovered in one friendship-gone-sour.
In the 1980s I read the work of Scott Peck of The Road Less Traveled. Who would you be wtihout the story that something difficult happening in your life, is automatically a bad thing?
Grace talks with the delightful Barbara Winters about inner peace, especially for those who are self-employed.
It's a natural human reaction to want to push away or cut off everyone and anyone who scares you. But who would you be without the thought?
I keep noticing how everything is bearable, even when they hurt like hell. Who would I be without the belief I have to avoid pain, because it might not be bearable?
When you think money should move from over there to over here, you might want to question that painful thought.
The feeling of not being enough or receiving enough is very painful sometimes. It can make people feel sick. Who would you be without your thought?
The end of a relationship can feel so devastating. But if you ask yourself a powerful question about your stressful thoughts...you may be surprised: Is it true? Are you sure? Answer the question, you might discover you aren't the bad person you think.
Anthony DeMello, one of my favorite authors, speaks of three things that are possibly concerning us, every single time we're afraid or stressed out.
Chuck C, a famous AA member whose talks are compiled in a book called "A New Pair of Glasses" defined sobriety as peace, comfort and joy on the inside.
When I was in my early 20s, I had a great challenge thrown down. By my little sister, who wasn't supposed to dent my pride like that. I used competition to change my life for the better. You can do this, too.
What criticism really gets down to is a big sense of self, and needing to protect yourself, build yourself up, or maintain an ego. When this dissolves, criticism has less pain.
If you try to get people to like you, then one way that comes crashing down is for the one whose adoration you want to criticize you. It hurts, but then...you're far more free.
People say what they say....and sometimes we really lose our peace. How to get it back? Listen to a couple of suggestions here.
Here's what its like to be in someone's presence without believing your story about them. Use your imagination!
When you do your work, you clearly identify the difficult situations from childhood. You only need one situation. Start there. Look closely. You may be surprised at the results.
If you can change your mindset about your parental units (mom and dad) you can find greater peace in your current everyday life!
When you have a pet peeve emotion you don't like, such as "hysterical" or "controlling" then you may want to look more deeply at why you don't like it.
Do you worry about money? Do you believe more money is better than less money? Who would you be without that thought? You might be HAPPY.
When you go beyond assuming you're unhappy because (x,y,z) and find out why you believe that's true....you may find incredible freedom.
If you really capture what you're thinking about others, when you converse or interact with them, and take it through inquiry, you can find peace in any conversation.
Do you have judgments about interruption? What about noticing when YOU interrupt other people, even in your own thoughts?
You can find easy, simple ways to relax with other people, even if you're giving a speech. Bring peace anywhere, and if you can't....question your thinking (I'll talk about this more next episode 62 as well).
You've probably noticed that we joke about death and dying at times, but what if you could really allow the humor of our temporary status here in life?