We usually tell the story of the memory of someone we loved, or a past situation, job, house or time of life as better than the one we're in now. Who would you be without that story? What if NOW were joyful?
I used to think I was an outcast. You'll see what I mean, in my neighborhood story I tell! I had the tiniest little house, by comparison to everyone else! Here's how I stopped the war about money.
If you're curious about money, talk with people who have it. Read about money. Open up, instead of hiding.
The belief that you need more money can be very stressful. Can you question this belief, and find peace instead?
It may be strange to give up the fight to heal or stop your resistance, but perhaps if you relax and simply be resistant, and accept yourself right there without attacking yourself, you may get the rest you really need.
How do you know you're being resitant? You're thinking things like "I can't" or "I won't" or "You can't make me".
This week we're talking about Resistance, and how it takes away our inner peace. First thing to do? Talk with the part of you in resistance. Be curious. Give it a voice.
The thought of death, and what it means for you, is one other way to quit believing your thoughts in stressful situations. Consider death. Turn the thought you're thinking around to the opposite. Everything slows down.
When you notice your mind filled with thoughts you kinda want to believe....but you pause and stop, even just a wee bit...what can you do to keep the space opening up and find some balance and peace? Ask this question.
What's the first thing to do when your mind races off in various directions, depending on what you encounter? Stop. Relax. Take a deep breath. Don't "act" immediately. This is possible for everyone.
Anthony DeMello wrote if you love the smell of a flower, you'll love the smell of 1000 flowers.....and have multitudes to choose from. Detachment to specialness can be handled many ways, and lead to a peaceful life.
Sustaining the effort to be in the present moment and not prefer something to be different is all you need to do. You can do this.
The Tao Te Ching says not to try to be clever or rich. What does ordinary look like? You may be surprised if you let yourself be exactly as you are.
Extreme desire can feel totally overwhelming. But what if you notice what you desire is never truly satisfying? Can you also see the thoughts before you ever had the craving? What were those thoughts? They may be painful, but sticking with them to see what they mean, what they say, leads to peace.
The mind will have stragies to obliterate "wanting" OR control myself. OR the mind will flip into truly no longer wanting...with a depressive quality. How do you want, and not have (yet) and have fun in every position? Some wanting is good!!
Peace is being connected to others, not focused on the content or the "things" that might be missing or out of order.
When you reconsider how you've been conditioned to hate disease, injury or death....you may find more freedom than you ever imagined.
In the end, being gentle overcomes the rigid....like in the Tao when you read that water, even when its soft and yielding, can dissolve the hard and inflexible. Letting your mind be soft is an amazing feeling when it comes to thinking about injury, sickness, pain and being trapped in a body.
This may seem odd...but suffering over injury, sickness and traumatic experience may be softened if you can spend some time finding benefits, advantages or interesting things coming out of your hard times. Here's one example.
How do we work with thoughts that create deep unhappiness or upset? First, you might consider the greatest fears....that you might experience unhappiness!
When thoughts come quickly it's difficult when you have the additional thought "this is too much, I can't take all these thoughts, there are too many!" What if you just started with the one on top? One step at a time--it'll be OK.
When we have stressful thoughts running...is it possible to actually NOT REACT? This week, we're exploring HOW.
Hilarious one day when I discovered the very thought of self-improvement has a funny flavor of ego-centeredness, in other words--I need to change, fix, alter or adjust myself. Are you the one in charge?
That self-centered self-focused thinking comments about everything, have you noticed? Noticing is the first step.
Even if you don't like what happens, it happens. Everyone experiences hard times.