That self-centered self-focused thinking comments about everything, have you noticed? Noticing is the first step.
Even if you don't like what happens, it happens. Everyone experiences hard times.
The strange paradox about uncertainty is that there are many things we behave pretty certainly about: there will be a tomorrow, if I get on this airplane flying to Seattle, it's probably going to Seattle. We can use this certainly to enjoy what is ordinary.
I've sure felt a lot of anxiety in my life! When you feel anxious about what could happen, here's a way you might question your thinking, and relax.
Strangely, trying to keep positive thoughts can sometimes become a source of stress. Can you relax, even with your negative thinking? Let's see how.
Find freedom by seeing what's beyond just the mind, and your thoughts.
The practice of being against suffering is strong--but what if we were open to suffering and took it in...opened up to it, even breathed it in? Notice what can happen if you consider this.
Hard things happening in life can be so unexpected, shocking, or traumatic and painful. One simple place to begin is here. Listen to find out what I notice, now.
Could you notice your desire is something that serves you, something to aim at, something that brings you present joy right now!
The three most difficult energies that can prevent us from enjoying or understanding our desires are guilt, shame and clinging. Can you see why, or where you learned your guilty, shameful or clinging beliefs? When you become aware, you have the power to become free.
Self-doubt can be questioned. Begin with noticing that you attack yourself, or say critical things...or maybe even reasons why you can't do something or get to what you envision. Is it true? Who would you be without that thought?
Now that you can question the suffering of death...or at least begin to look...can you find freedom in seeing that you are completely alone, and it's OK? This does not mean lonely!
I love the simple awareness that even with people I love and adore, they are not with me 24/7. Thank goodness! Could this be the normal way of it? If I can find that being alone is OK, maybe I can find this in death, as well.
Death is perhaps the greatest difficulty of all experiences, it seems, in the human life. We're worried about it, it seems terrible when others die. Start with the first most painful belief: death is terrible. Is that true?
Your self-hate may never go away. Who would you be if you gave up the idea that you will be secure later, and there's a way to eliinate pain? You might be surprised at the freedom.
Self-inquiry around ending self-hate is something you can notice and do in many subtle versions of self-hate.
When you're uncertain about what will happen tomorrow, or unsupported, you might think "there is something wrong with me". All it takes is some awareness, first seeing that you are not alone.
When you kid is yelling or they say something mean--it appears they don't care about you--this can be from anyone! What if you turned that around, and concentrated only on yourself? I should love myself. It's easier, and in the end, they love you more when you do it.
Could not knowing actually be the way of it? The way that might work best? It doesn't mean being lazy or lacadaisical, it means relaxing and being OK with not knowing.
When you bump up against demands you think you need to make of your kids, or anyone for that matter, it can be very stressful. Here's where you can start to unravel that stress.
Notice your anxiety, and relax. Allow your body to go limp. Stop dictating to yourself that you need to find a way to become less anxious, and watch this thing called anxiety--study it! It could be your friend.
When you think you don't have enough time, you can get super anxious! Have you noticed? Or what about too much time on your hands? Boredom is anxiety-producing, too. What if life has it's own pace, and it's not up to you?
Feeling anxiety is very difficult for so many (myself included). There's ONE basic premise, however, that must be in place in order to feel fearful and get anxious....that it's possible to NOT BE HAPPY in certain situations. Strangely simple, but we begin looking at this belief this week.
Start with your most stressful thought about love, then explore on paper with journaling. You can do an exercise to dialogue with yourself about your painful thoughts about love.
Exploring the inner you is so exciting! Use your imagination to explore what it would be like to not have a thought!
Rumi's beautiful poetry "Community of Spirit" tells us to throw away our stories and let silence tell us all, end our suffering, join the community of spirit!
When we apply this to romantic love, our complaints "he left me" or "she left me" become irrelevant.